All kinds of strange things will not come to your mind because you are moving naturally with the
other sex, the other sex is moving with you; there is no hindrance, and you are not doing anything
wrong against anybody. Your conscience is clear because nobody has put into your conscience
ideas of what is right, what is wrong: you are simply being whatever you are.
Then from fourteen to twenty-one your sex matures. And this is significant to understand: if the
rehearsal has gone well, in the seven years when your sex matures a very strange thing happens
that you may not have ever thought about, because you have not been given the chance. I said to
you that the second seven years, from seven to fourteen, give you a glimpse of foreplay. The third
seven years give you a glimpse of afterplay. You are still together with girls or boys, but now a new
phase starts in your being: you start falling in love.
It is still not a biological interest. You are not interested in producing children, you are not interested
in becoming husbands and wives, no. These are the years of romantic play. You are more interested
in beauty, in love, in poetry, in sculpture – which are all different phases of romanticism. And unless
a man has some romantic quality he will never know what afterplay is. Sex is just in the middle.
The longer the foreplay, the better the possibility of reaching the climax; the better the possibility of
reaching the climax, the better opening for afterplay. And unless a couple knows afterplay they will
never know what sex in its completion is.
Now there are sexologists who are teaching foreplay. A taught foreplay is not the real thing, but they
are teaching it – at least they have recognized the fact that without foreplay sex cannot reach the
climax. But they are at a loss how to teach afterplay because when a person has reached the climax
he is no longer interested: he is finished, the job is done. For that it needs a romantic mind, a poetic
mind, a mind that knows how to be thankful, how to be grateful.
The person, the woman or the man who has brought you to such a climax, needs some gratitude –
afterplay is your gratitude. And unless there is afterplay it simply means your sex is incomplete; and
incomplete sex is the cause of all the troubles that man goes through.
Sex can become orgasmic only when afterplay and foreplay are completely balanced. Just in their
balance the climax turns into orgasm.
And the word ”orgasm” has to be understood.
It means that your whole being – body, mind, soul, everything – becomes involved, organically
involved.
Then it becomes a moment of meditation.
To me, if your sex does not become finally a moment of meditation, you have not known what sex is.
You have only heard about it, you have read about it; and the people who have been writing about it
know nothing about it.
I have read hundreds of books on sexology by people who are thought to be great experts, and they
are experts, but they know nothing about the innermost shrine where meditation blossoms.
Just as children are born by ordinary sex, meditation is born by extraordinary sex.
Animals can produce children; there is nothing special about it. It is only man who can produce the
experience of meditation as the center of his orgasmic feeling. This is possible only if from fourteen
to twenty-one young people are allowed to have romantic freedom.
From twenty-one to twenty-eight is the time when they can settle. They can choose a partner. And
they are capable of choosing now; through all the experience of the past two circles they can choose
the right partner. There is nobody else who can do it for you. It is something that is more like a hunch
– not arithmetic, not astrology, not palmistry, not I-Ching, nothing is going to do.
It is a hunch: coming in contact with many, many people suddenly something clicks which had never
clicked with anybody else. And it clicks with so much certainty and so absolutely, that you cannot
even doubt it. Even if you try to doubt it, you cannot, the certainty is so tremendous. With this click
you settle.
Between twenty-one and twenty-eight somewhere, if everything goes smoothly the way I am saying,
without interference from others, then you settle. And the most pleasant period of life comes from
twenty-eight to thirty-five – the most joyous, the most peaceful and harmonious because two persons
start melting and merging into each other.
From thirty-five to forty-two, a new step, a new door opens. If up to thirty-five you have felt deep
harmony, an orgasmic feeling, and you have discovered meditation through it, then from thirty-five
to forty-two you will help each other go more and more into that meditation without sex, because sex
at this point starts looking childish, juvenile.
Forty-two is the right time when a person should be able to know exactly who he is. From forty-two
to forty-nine he gets deeper and deeper into meditation, more and more into himself, and helps the
partner in the same way. They become friends. There is no more husband and there is no more
wife; that time has passed. It has given its richness to your life; now there is something higher,
higher than love.
That is friendliness, a compassionate relationship to help the other to go deeper into himself, to
become more independent, to become more alone – just like two tall trees standing separate but
still close to each other, or two pillars in a temple supporting the same roof – standing so close, but
so separate and so independent and so alone.
From forty-nine to fifty-six this aloneness becomes your focus of being. Everything in the world loses
meaning. The only thing meaningful that remains is this aloneness.
From fifty-six to sixty-three you become absolutely what you are going to become: the potential
blossoms.
From sixty-three to seventy you start getting ready to drop the body. Now you know you are not the
body, you know you are not the mind either. The body was known as separate from you somewhere
when you were thirty-five. That the mind is separate from you was known somewhere when you
were forty-nine. Now, everything else drops except the witnessing self. Just the pure awareness,
the flame of awareness remains with you, and this is the preparation for death.
Seventy is the natural life span for man. And if things move in this natural course then he dies
with tremendous joy, with great ecstasy, feeling immensely blessed that his life has not been
meaningless, that at least he has found his home. And because of this richness, this fulfillment,
he is capable of blessing the whole existence.
Just to be near such a person when he is dying is a great opportunity. You will feel, as he leaves his
body, some invisible flowers falling upon you. Although you cannot see them, you can feel them.
It has been always a great moment in the lives of disciples when the Master leaves the body. And
it is possible because the Master can know when he is going to leave the body – he can collect all
those who have been his fellow travelers moving in the same way. Now that he is leaving he would
like to give you his last gift.
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