After seven years, the next circle of seven years, from seven to fourteen, is a new addition to life:
the child’s first stirring of sexual energies. But they are only a kind of rehearsal.
To be a parent is a difficult job, so unless you are ready to take that difficult job, don’t become a
parent. People simply go on becoming fathers and mothers not knowing what they are doing. You
are bringing a life into existence; all the care in the world will be needed.
Now when the child starts playing his sexual rehearsals, that is the time when parents interfere the
most, because they have been interfered with. All that they know is what has been done to them, so
they simply go on doing that to their children.
Societies don’t allow sexual rehearsal, at least have not allowed it up to this century – only within
the last two, three decades, and that too only in very advanced countries. Now children are having
co-education. But in a country like India, even now co-education starts only at the university level.
The seven-year-old boy and the seven-year-old girl cannot be in the same boarding school. And
this is the time for them – without any risk, without the girl getting pregnant, without any problems
arising for their families – this is the time when they should be allowed all playfulness.
Yes, it will have a sexual color to it, but it is rehearsal; it is not the real drama. And if you don’t allow
them even the rehearsal and then suddenly one day the curtain opens, and the real drama starts ....
And those people don’t know what is going on; even a prompter is not there to tell them what to do.
You have messed up their life completely.
Those seven years, the second circle in life, is significant as a rehearsal. They will meet, mix, play,
become acquainted. And that will help humanity to drop almost ninety percent of perversions.
If the children from seven to fourteen are allowed to be together; to swim together, to be naked before
each other, ninety percent of perversions and ninety percent of pornography will simply disappear.
Who will bother about it?
When a boy has known so many girls naked, what interest can a magazine like PLAYBOY have for
him? When a girl has seen so many boys naked, I don’t see that there is any possibility of curiosity
about the other; it will simply disappear. They will grow together naturally, not as two different
species of animals.
Right now that’s how they grow: two different species of animals. They don’t belong to one mankind;
they are kept separate. A thousand and one barriers are created between them so they cannot have
any rehearsal of their sexual life which is going to come.
Because this rehearsal is missing, that’s why in people’s actual sex life foreplay is missing; and
foreplay is so important – far more important than actual sexual contact, because actual sexual
contact lasts only for seconds. It is not nourishment. It simply leaves you in a limbo. You were
hoping for so much, and nothing comes out of it.
In Hindi we have a proverb: kheela pahad nikli chuhia. ‘You dug out the whole mountain and you
found one rat.’ After all the effort – going to the movies and going to the disco and going to the
restaurant, and talking all kinds on nonsense which neither you want nor the other wants to do, but
both are talking – digging the mountain, and in the end, just a rat! Nothing is so frustrating as sex.
Just the other day Vivek brought me one advertisement about a new car, Lagonda; in the
advertisement they had a beautiful sentence that I liked. The sentence is: ”It is better than sex.”
I don’t care about the car – the advertisement is beautiful. Certainly if you look around you, you will
find a thousand and one things better than sex. Sex is just a rat, and that too after so much huffing
and puffing, so much perspiration ... and in the end both feel cheated.
The reason is that you don’t know the art of sex; you know only the middle point. It is as if you see a
film just in the middle for a few seconds. Naturally you can’t make any sense of it; the beginning is
missing, the end is missing. Perhaps you simply saw the interval ... where there was nothing.
Man feels ashamed after sex; he turns over and goes to sleep. He simply cannot face the woman.
He feels ashamed, that’s why he turns to his side and goes to sleep. The woman weeps and cries
because this was not what she was hoping for. This is all? Then what is this whole drama all about?
But the reason is because the rehearsal part in your life has been canceled by your society. You
don’t know what foreplay is.
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